Cocktails & Chats: Intentions

Happy New Year you guys!
Its been a long while since I have just sat down here and chatted with you guys. One of my favorite forms of social media is honestly the long-form blog post. I feel like I can really get it all out there and be authentic and open and just ME. This blog, for so long, has been just our work (which I’m super proud of and I will keep sharing each and every wedding we do you guys… no worries). Long before that though, like years ago, I used to write longer blog posts too. Funny enough, I’ve been blogging since the days of Livejournal and Xanga. (Remember that??) I had both of those, and I had a couple more personal blogs on WordPress. For whatever reason, I neglected that aspect of myself here on this blog. I just got all businessey and I want to get back to being here in this way with you guys this year! So… hello!

Since it’s that time of year, I thought I would go ahead and start a new series here on the blog to make this kind of blog post into a regular thing! I’m calling it “Cocktails & Chats” since I like to write at night in low lighting with a cocktail. Anyone else? Funny enough, this one I am writing at my sweet mom’s house, which is a drinking-free-zone. I do have chill vibes going on though so that’ll work this time.

On January 1st I sat down with my friend Kim and we did our 2019 reflections and 2020 hopes together. First, we did Tim Ferriss’ Past Year Review. I’ve done this the past couple of years and it has really made a difference in improving our lives to have more positives and fewer negatives each and every year. Read his blog post about it because he explains it perfectly. I can’t recommend this enough. Even just the slightest tweaks can make a huge difference. Some of the changes Dan and I have made this year and in past years are: client phone calls only take place during business hours, plan dates with friends and each other at the beginning of each month, self-care Sundays, at least one outdoor adventure monthly, etc.

After Kim and I did the Past Year Review, we then moved on to a set of questions one of her friends created. I think they were really great to help us really dig into things so here they are if you want to do this too!

Thinking about 2019:

How do I feel about 2019?
How did my life change?
What am I most proud of?
What would I have done differently?
How did I overcome daily stress?
What did I complain about the most?
What am I most grateful for?
Who/What challenged my faith?
What was my biggest disappointment?
What negative habit did I break?
Does anything feel incomplete from last year?
What was my favorite trip?

Thinking about 2020:

If there’s anything I can stop doing, what would it be?
Where do I want to be 1 year from now?
What’s my number one goal for 2020?
What is my word of the year?
What are my top 3 priorities for the new year?
A new skill I’d like to learn:
A person I’d like to be more like:
A good deed I’m going to do:
A place I’d like to visit:
A book I’d like to read:
I want to learn:
I’m going to work harder at:
I’m committing to:

With my Past Year Review and the answers to these thoughtful questions, I really do feel like I have carved out some real intentions for the coming year. I know that resolutions are out of vogue right now but I have always loved looking into the new year with a feeling of hope and positive ideas, big and small. If you have any amazing year-end or new year planning rituals, I would love to hear about them AND if you do any of these, I would love to know that too! Let me know in the comments below. <3

Here is the planner I have for 2020
Tim Ferriss Past Year Review

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